As Christmas comes closer, I have started to think about the traditions that have become part and parcel of of my life. ALL THINGS CHANGE. I don't like it but they do, when I was a kid Christmas was a whirlwind of peoples houses, playing and parties. Laughter, dancing, drinking all common place in my house. When my siblings got married and started to leave Singapore things changed I guess as they had to. My folks stopped going for mid night mass, people got older the parties more sedate. When my father died it seemed most of the traditions went with him, so we started our own.
(for years I would meet Iggy for dinner on
Christmas eve but alas that too has changed) Midnight in Church with friends who come back to my home for something warm to eat and something cold to drink. I have a friend who I see only on Christmas Eve after mass at my house, this year he wont be there and he took the effort to tell me and i have to say it
surprised me how it affected me.
On the family front it was brunch at my sisters place and even when my
bil left us we carried on with that. This year will be different my nephew and mum will be with my
Australian family so brunch will be in my house. At first i was annoyed, you know its tradition we have to go there and we have to eat the special
omelet and the bacon and stuff, then it dawned on me what I really
didn't like was having my nephew and mum away for Christmas and as it turns out
that's not traditional
that's LIFE.
These events, they stand like markers through our lives. Christmas, Birthdays and everything else but we begin to tie ourselves so tightly to the traditions that the reason for having these markers is quickly forgotten. While we may not be religious and tend to forget the reason for Christmas, lets not forget the reason for us gathering together. Its so that family and friends can BE together to BE with each other, it matters not if I
don't have lights on the tree or my open house is in Jan instead of Dec, what matters is that we are open to the idea that there will be change and it
doesn't matter as long as we are together. This year I who am tied to more traditions than most have decided that the my New Years resolution shall be, Cut the strings of traditions and just enjoy each other. (at least i will try)